Here’s Why Masturbation Is So Important For You And Your Sex Life

It is a time when women are feeling empowered to not only speak up against harassment but also to own their own pleasure, and we are so proud to be here for this movement. On top of that, another revolution is coming to a head: women feeling safe and secure exploring their own sexuality and fantasies on their own, expressing them to their partners and being unapologetic about it.

We’re learning, without judgement, shame or fear, to become comfortable with the idea of embracing what we like, exploring what we might and trying to become less hesitant to take a hard pass on what we don’t. And masturbation is an important part of this process.

We’re also learning that masturbation is not just about your partner’s pleasures and fantasies, but is more about you and what you want your sexual experiences to be.

Why masturbation is a must

As we’ve already seen, masturbation increases with education. This is, in part, because it loses its aura of taboo. As women begin to understand the health benefits, they are more inclined to give it a go. Here are a few of the benefits of masturbation:

• It relieves stress.
• It decreases anxiety levels.
• It boosts self-image and self-esteem.
• Women who masturbate regularly are more confident.
• Women who masturbate usually have a healthier and more active sex life than those who don’t.
• Women who masturbate have a better idea of how their bodies work, and what pleases them, making sex with a partner a lot more fun.
• Plus, you know. Orgasms.

Take it up a notch

Masturbation is a quick and easy way to get off without too much effort, cost or even human interaction. It’s fun, free and safe as long as you’re washing your hands… And not breaking any laws. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be even more fun. After all, sex is play, and playtime means toys. Eighteen out of 20 women who regularly masturbate, report using toys when doing so. So you should give it a try.

Our favourite sex toys for women

If you’re new to the wonderful world of sex toys, check out our Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys. Otherwise, if you already know what works for you, here is a list of our favourite toys for female pleasure:

Body Massagers — if you’d like to introduce a toy, but don’t want something as overt as a vibrator or dildo, all-over vibrating body massagers, like the Doxy Number 3, are your go-to toys. Once you’ve finished with the massage, use the toy on your more intimate areas to end off with a bang. There are also adjustable heads (available at Matilda’s) for different areas of stimulation.

Clitoral Stimulation — the Womaniser Premium is the absolute essential. It’s a touchless clitoral toy that stimulates with waves and vibrations and turns itself on when it comes close to your skin. It’s discreet, silent and sensual as it intuitively picks intensities and patterns for random stimulation that surprises and excites every time.

Dual G-spot and Clitoral Stimulation — the Swan The Kissing Swan Rabbit Vibrator delivers sensational G-spot pleasure and clitoral stimulation for dual satisfaction that lends itself to blended orgasms.

Another one of our firm favourites in the dual market is the Harmony Wonderlust. This toy has a hooded clitoral stimulator that targets ALL your sweet spots with absolute precision. This toy is rechargeable for repeat play whenever you want it.

Discreet Vibe — The Swan Powerbullet is your secret weapon when it comes to a stimulating warm-up during foreplay, extra sensation during solo play or for giving you that final push when you’re close to climax. This rechargeable bullet comes in a matte storage case and measures 3 inches for discreet fun whenever you want it.

Lube Is Essential — Lube always makes everything better and that includes when you’re pleasuring yourself. Matilda’s is the exclusive stockists of YES Lubes in SA and the company has just collaborated with Lulu Becker, a women’s pelvic physiotherapist who endorses the brand.

So dim the lights, light the candles and settle down for some solo playtime with your favourite new toy from Matilda’s. Their wide range of exciting and quality toys, shipped overnight and discreetly packaged will empower you to own your orgasms, whatever your vibe.